I have never been old before. Funny I just heard Bill Gates’ mom say that. Does everyone feel like an observer inside? I heard writers are like that; so that makes me a writer; but I have been doing this for a while.
At this point on the planet, I find life fascinating. Not easy. Fascinating balls or stupidity will back those thoughts up. I was born shortly before the Hurricane of 1938, with a twin, but I was four pounds, so hung out in incubator till I fattened up. (In later years, I would have no such issues of fattening up.)
It’s all an inside job on one level, this growing awareness. Childhood, adolescence, the emergence of tension of the opposites; gnashing forces of worth, no worth, feelings of inadequacy masked by leading kids the wrong way, getting suspended from Roslindale High 3 times in sophomore year by Mr. Gately who looked like a prison warden from the twenties. “You have the worst record of any girl in this school,” he would announce, right before he said, “Don’t come back until you tell your father.” Sunday night would come, and Mr. Gately would have called my father. I was emotionally afraid of my father, but somehow I went back to school after they spoke. I later pulled it together so by senior year, I was voted most popular and studied enough to get A’s and B’s.
Now in my late 70s, I look back upon that scattered, frightened young girl and think how lost she was. My twin, Elizabeth, said to herself when she was ten years old, standing outside our 12 room house, standing in our circular gravel driveway, “I have to take care of myself now”. She would tell me this in her second year of fighting cancer, at age 68, and she also told me, “We were not born 5 minutes apart, but 12. Lord she held that 5 minutes over me for eons. I was the youngest in the family. Turns out she and I were placed in different classrooms after Kindergarten because she copied my yellow wooden shoe drawing.
I was consider the leader, but in middle school my French Teacher who taught us to sing (Rudolph Le Serf Au Nez Rouge – Rudolf the Red Nosed….) said to me, “Esther, you are a leader. Why do you lead people the wrong way”?
My father despaired over his children. Were we cretins to him? My mother had her own demons and died when Liz and I were 17. Each one of us, John, Meb, Liz and I drove this man through many an anguished hour.
Now in 2017 I know we act our turmoil out, conditions in the world, in the household pivot through our psyches, and we were all pretty troubled .In 1966 I began my oneness path, took my little yellow lunchbox of thoughts and newly discovered Faith down the road. This Faith saved my life.
In 2017 after some harrowing months I realized I have never done “old” before. This awareness survived many a hospital trip, but I always bounced back. on Last month, recovering from harrowing doses of Morphine during an emergency run to two hospitals. Little did I know within the space of 27 hours of no sleep, constant pain, and some unexplainable events, I felt tumulted into a fake cult. Funny how this cult pulled of similar physical surroundings as in the hospital’s art work looked the same, but there was no kindness, no explanations of process.
I ended up in a morphine psychosis, which led me, mild mannered Esther, toddling out of a hospital room, physically in agitation over a recent brutal surgical procedure, asking a man, “Excuse me are you a scientist.” The scene expanded in a silenced way with my moaning to serried ranks of hospital employees, “help me, help me,” and my running away from a hatchet faced nurse, zipping down a hospital corridor and ripping out the offensive surgical implant apparatus. I was put in a room with another patient who was so inert I thought she was dying. I thought she was being slowly killed, and I thought her nurse was being punished also, but she got to go home. Because of this cult, would never again see my son’s face, see anyone I knew and loved, and would be in a world without Baha’u’llah. recovering from thinking I was in a fake cult which looked like my regular hospital, ripping out something from a surgical procedure, and then running down a long corridor away from the nurses,. The nurse in charge of my well being was the same hatchet faced nurse who never smiled, only repeated, “You will have that implanted again.” A kind resident emerged and listened to me, and I felt safe again. It took me several days to realize exactly what had happened. Time had stretched for me, but all of my drama was contained in an action packed 27 hours.
I then emerged from my haze only to learn of a suggested search for kidney cancer. Well it wasn’t cancer and I’m fine. Two weeks after this escapade, on October 21, 2017, to be exact, I dashed out for a waiting Uber, skidded and flat lined across the narrow hallway outside my room, realizing seconds later, something was seriously wrong.
Reader, I had a short clean break in the upper part of my pelvic ring, and a hairline fracture at the bottom of this ring. What would this mean?
I am patched up and recuperating and now have time to face my technical dysfunction. I feel like a woman, tossed down a sparse hill, covered with grass, patchy grass. My long arms and skinny fingers dig into hard dirt because I am slipping, sliding, gasping, down a hill. Going down.
I am not keeping up with: Kindle, Ipad, and worst of all Windows 10. Reader, are you with me? I have forgotten how to blog. I can’t find my dashboard. I spend hours looking at WordPress books and the letters “How to Blog,” blur into tiny ants on their march towards my crossed eyes.I will end with this ephiphany. Piph on that dear Reader.
As always, I love to snoop at what’s going on in your life. I see a little bit of myself in your daily travails of growing old, especially the part about figuring out the technicalities of anything I’ve not yet tackled, or those things I did tackle, but then forgot who was tackling who, and trying unsuccessfully trying to figure them out anew. My father said, “getting old stinks.” My mother said, “while I don’t like getting old, still, the process is fascinating.”
Loved this piece, and the ones before it. Keep ’em coming!
thanks; i just added picture of myself and twin; i had so many versions as i figured out how to find good images and then upload; o.h my I appreciate all of your comments!
Get well soon:.)
love you forever
Funny, you don’t write old. The Hurricane of 1938? Tragedies make convenient time markers. In 1952, just before my birth, King George VI of Great Britain died. I think your hurricane has more legs than my dead king. I had to look up which number George he was. There was also an incident in Pakistan where police killed four protesters and a swath of tornadoes that killed 208 in the Mississippi River Valley. It’s always the celebrities who catch our eye. “Be assured that no celebrities were massacred, only hundred of people you neither know nor care about.” George VI, alas was dead; deader than a doornail. My mother liked to relate how she was tending to one-year-old me while watching the coronation of George’s little girl, more than a year later on our black and white Dumont, which we still possessed until after we moved in 1958. Thanks to your blog I can now relate my birth to the death of George VI. I can’t wait to tell Diana.
Love, Keith
Keith, I write with the voice of a 35 year old, my innate buoyance cannot be stilled; go figure; high regards e